How to Ask a Girl Out

Nobody would admit it but at least 90% of men are nervous before they ask a girl out. And it is perfectly normal. Really, what if she says ‘no.’ Or what if she says ‘yes,’ but won’t come? Or maybe she says ‘yes,’ will come but will be bored. Not everyone knows how he would handle a rejection if any follows.

But with positive attitude and a little preparation there are high chances that after you ask a girl out she won’t say ‘no’ to you.

Here are a few tips and recommendations on how to ask a girl out.

1. Preparing
First of all, decide why you want to ask her out, what you want from her, what should be your strategy, what do you expect from her.

Try to look good. Appearance counts. You will have more chances if you look nice. You don’t have to be Brad Pitt, but it won’t hurt to brush up a bit.

Decide where you want to go with her if she says yes. Try to take into account her interests. Dinner and movie can be a neutral variant but you might want to make the first date something more creative.

Be ready with time and date as well as be ready with alternative is she has a hectic schedule.
Decide how you will react if she rejects.

2. Approaching a girl
Now when all the preparations are done, approach your girl. Make sure it is the right moment. Don’t approach her if she is with her friends or when she is in a hurry. You have to have some few quiet minutes one on one. Be positive. Smile. Crack a joke first, make her feel comfortable. Make a compliment. Flirt a bit. See how she reacts. See if she responds to you. Keep an eye contact.

3. Asking a girl
Be confident and be yourself. Do not pretend to be someone else. When you are ready go ahead and just ask. Here are a few variant of how you could do it:

• Hey, why don’t you come to a movie with me this weekend?
• I heard there is this new show in…., do you want to come?
• I was wondering if you would go with me to the concert/movie/ballet/play/etc?

The list can continue, you just make sure you suggest something she would definitely like. Don’t make it a big deal, yet don’t act as if does not matter to you. Keep it casual.

If she agrees, come up with time and date that you have in mind. If she says ‘no,’ keep your cool. Don’t get nasty. Remain friendly. Say something like “okay, no problem, maybe another time.” Just do not leave the same moment. Keep talking about something else for a while, and then find an excuse and leave.

These tips could be really help you if you are wondering how to ask a girl out. All in all to ask a girl out you will need a little bit of courage, some confidence, and your very best self. Believe in yourself and don’t make it the most important thing of your life even if you really like this girl a lot. The worst that can happen is that she will say ‘no,’ it is not like the hell suddenly went loose. You will have your second chance if you are interested, or you just move to another girl.

40 Fun Date Ideas

40 Fun Date Ideas

A fun date is a creative date. Of course, there is still room for conventional romantic dates. Candle-light dinners, moonlight beach walks, there are so many ways to impress a girl. Yet, romance is not everything.

If you want to surprise a girl, take her out on some fun date to add some spark and spontaneity into your relationship. If you really want to stand out from the crowd, then do something unique and original. Don't settle for the old boring dinner and a movie routine.

It is not as tough to find a fun date idea as you think. All you have to do is look around and find something you both will enjoy doing. And if you can’t find anything, feel free to use some ideas from our fun dates’ list.

1. Go to an amusement park
2. Play bowling
3. Go on a pizza tour around the city
4. Go on a chocolate tour
5. Try horseback riding
6. Don’t miss ice-skating
7. If you are sports fans, watch a game together
8. Give a chance to a comedy club
9. Go on a picnic in the park
10. Ride in an air-balloon
11. If you are not scared, go for cliff jumping
12. Drive-in
13. Let her win (or lose) in kart racing
14. Go camping: night, stars, a moon, a blanket, some drinks, and just the two of you
15. Play mini golf
16. Ever thought of skydiving?
17. Take her to a gun range
18. What about sailing?
19. Decorate your room as some foreign country, take her on vacation without leaving home
20. Go on a treasure hunt
21. Fly a kite
22. Watch meteor showers together
23. Play video games (no need to be a winner all the time, though)
24. Spend a day in a swimming pool
25. Go paint balling
26. Try rafting or kayaking
27. Experience paragliding together
28. Observe the city while on helicopter ride
29. Play board games
30. Search for ghosts in the haunted house
31. Take her to a dance lesson
32. Have a play fight, snowball or pillow
33. Prepare a meal together
34. Go to a wine tasting
35. Volunteer together
36. Go roller skating
37. Play Laser Tag
38. Build a tree house
39. Go mountain climbing
40. Make a snow sculpture

A good date is a date with the right person at the right time and at the right place. You decide if you pick one of our fun date ideas for the first, the second or the 50th date. Important is that you both will enjoy.

Dating can be both tough and simple, before you suggest something or plan something you should make sure that it will be welcome by the second party. Try to find out what she likes or dislikes before you take her on some extreme date. Maybe you should start with something quieter but still fun before you proceed to something like skydiving.

There are a lot of opportunities to make your date unforgettable. A good, fun date throws some spice to your relationship. So, why don’t you try one of our fun date ideas right now?

Dating and Money

If you are casually dating and not seeing one particular person exclusively, the money you could feasibly end up spending while dating can be a daunting prospect. This subject has come up a lot over the years on my forum, during conversations with my friends and during pick up artist boot camps.

If you are on the prowl and dating several women, going on a few dates each week, you could easily break the bank if you are always the one paying for expensive things like admission, food, drinks, cab fare and so on.

Unless you know when you meet the girl that she is going to be your longtime girlfriend, then it helps to establish some general ground rules for you to remember on a date.

Here’s what a typical first date for me is like: I will usually take the girl to a small bar or café near my house. When it comes time to order, I’ll immediately say, “I’ll get the first round.”

There are a few reasons for this. The first is to show that you are not going to buy everything all night long. This is appealing because it shows you are not a pushover and you are not trying to impress her or buy her affections. The second reason I do this is that it rather helps me weed out the cool girls from the not cool girls. I mean, you have to be pretty uptight of a girl to not buy the second round. Anyone can afford one round of drinks, no matter how tight the budget is, otherwise, you should have pointed out you didn’t have money to go out when the idea was suggested. (By the way, I don’t have a problem with that either. There is something charming about a woman who might say to me that money is tight, but she’d be happy to have me over for a cup of coffee and homemade cake or a glass of wine and some cheese at her house.)

Another rule that I established pretty quickly after I moved to New York City and found myself surrounded by amazing women, dating at least three nights a week was to avoid going out to dinner for any of these dates.

Unless he is your girlfriend or you are regularly having sleep over’s at one another’s house, then don’t go out to dinner. You can always whip up a delicious little repast at each other’s homes, but avoid dining out, which can be astronomically expensive – especially in New York City.

Make as many of your dates cost nothing as possible. I’m not being a cheapskate here because I have many more reasons why this is important that have nothing to do with money. Some o the best things in life are free. In addition, some of the best experiences cost next to nothing. You will impress a girl more with your creativity in packing a picnic lunch with a good bottle of wine and sitting in the park, then you would spending a fortune on a meal. Trust me, here. Money doesn’t buy class or make you interesting. Just like I would be charmed by a girl offering me coffee at her place, women have told me that it is refreshing to pack a picnic lunch and go to the park with me.